“I will happily walk away from a relationship that isn’t serving me”: Woman sets boundaries with her perpetual victim boyfriend, reaches the courage to end a one-sided relationship with internet rooting for her

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    AITAH for telling my boyfriend I will happily walk away from a relationship that isn’t serving me

    "It's reasonable to expect a partner to show interest in my life"
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    I (29F) have known my boyfriend (29M) for a year, together for 10 months. There are a lot of pros to him, but ever since the second date I have noticed my boyfriend is pretty indifferent about me and my life. During a 2-3 hour dates he talked the entire time. The two times he asked me a question, he would cut me off and start talking
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    about himself again. This behavior became pretty repetitive throughout the relationship, and I have tried my best to communicate how it bothers and affects me.
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    About two days ago as I'm driving he calls to tell me tik tok is back and immediately says "I know you're busy so I'll let you go". I, in a passive aggressive way (which I'm not proud about) said "the drive is going great since I know you're dying to know". This became a whole argument because he felt I was disrespecting him infront of
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    my sister. The next day we had a conversation where I acknowledged my shortcoming, apologized, and explained I let my frustration take over. I also communicated to him that I am unhappy in the relationship because of his indifference towards my life, and that I need him to fix
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    this. I told him as well that I will continue fighting for this relationship but that I will not stay in a relationship that isn't serving. me when I know I can provide myself everything I need to be happy and feel fulfilled. Now he is upset because my comment was r de, I didn't acknowledge how my
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    comment hurt him for long enough, and I'm making him feel like he's not adding value to my life. AITAH?
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    Edit: I think it's worth clarifying why i decided to go on after that second date. After those first two dates i communicated my concerns around this behavior and that I didn't think we were a good match. His response to this was very apologetic and he tied it to nerves of dating someone. I decided to
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    give him some grace and continue getting to know him instead of judging based on two initial interactions. Now as we continued dating unfortunately it became more apparent that he had to truly make an effort to show interest in my life because it didn't come naturally. I will also admit that he heavily loved bombed me.
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    Something that even became a joke between the two of us. Now in hindsight, this love bombing made me ignore these very huge red flags in the relationship. Now that some time has passed I've realized how serious this is and how I am unhappy in this relationship.
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    The good news is this all opened my eyes a lot and showed me I'm not being unreasonable for expecting a partner that shows interest in my life. I am taking the steps needed now with this information in mind.
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    Local-Record 7707 • 18h ago Dog 10 months after seeing that on the second date? Whyyyyyy whyyyyyy cant it be oh can it beeeeeee iiiine
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    Legitimate_Law323 10h ago NTA relationships are a two way thing, there's give and take from both sides but you can't always be the giver
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    mynamecouldbesam • 18h ago NTA how have you put up with this for 10 months??? | just don't get it.
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    Thin-Policy8127 • 18h ago If this happened on the second date, you shouldn't have gone on a third.
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    I once went on a first date with a guy who talked nonstop about himself for three hours. Never asked me a single question about myself. I hate small talk, but boy did I become a savant that day just trying to keep the conversation going.
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    He told me it was the best date he ever went on. Yikes. There was absolutely zero chance I was going out with him again. I don't know how you've let him use ten months of your time, honestly. "You made him feel like he's not adding value to your life."...is he?
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    SockMaster9273 • 18h ago NTA but if you wont stay in a relationship that isn't serving you, why are you in this one?
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    JellicoAlpha_3_1 • 17h ago No offense, but he showed you who he was during the dating phase You are the one who decided to start dating a self absorbed narcissist with anger and communication issues
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    So you need to just accept that YOU made a mistake dating this man and that YOU need to rectify it by walking away You told him what you needed from him and he attempted to play the victim.
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    HE IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE He is never going to care about your life at all. He's not capable Some people just only care about themselves
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    And you are dating one But there is an easy fix for this...you just have to accept that dating him was a mistake Once you do that, you'll be at peace with your choice to end things
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    wildbaby67 18h ago. If he's going to make you feel like an audience member in his one-man show, it might be time for a new script

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